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Some advice for Muslim husbands: Give your wife a break
By Siraaj Muhammad
Published in The Saudi Gazette on 15 - 03 - 2010

A few months back, I took a week off for “maternity leave.” I spent that time cooking, cleaning, and looking after my elder two children while my wife recovered and took care of our new daughter, Taymiyyah.
Before her birth, I was pretty much a “hands-off” dad – diapers, babysitting, feeding, and cleaning up after them was taken care of primarily by my wife. And since they didn't like leaving her side, it was easy for me to say, “See, if I take them, they'll just cry, so you keep them.” About the only time I'd take them was when the signs of a nervous breakdown were apparent on my wife's face.
I had a jolting revelation of sorts after walking a week in her shoes. It was simply too much, with a four-year-old, a two-year-old, and now a newborn. After some thought, I realized my contribution as a husband and father had been inadequate, and change was in order – here are a few I made:
1. Time Blocks
Each part of my daily schedule is sliced and allocated for certain aspects of my life, so activities related to that time block happen there and there only.
In the evening after Maghrib (maybe after Asr as days become longer), I now have a block of time allocated to spend with my kids (they always want to play PS3 or rough house). I've also told my wife to take this time off to do her own thing, whether that's being alone or hanging out with us.
From what she's told me as well as the feedback she's received from other sisters, many of them are starved of personal time away from the kids. My suggestion for brothers is to work out a scheduled time for this to happen with their wives, rather than waiting for them to meltdown.
2. Diaper Changing
I have a confession. I hate changing diapers, but I can handle it, and most other chores. As I mentioned earlier, I used to leave all the cleaning for my wife (though I was one of those rare guys raised by his mom to know how to clean the whole house) as well as the diaper changing, but I've since changed my ways. I help out with everything as time allows, including the diaper changing.
I know, I know, I'm outing a lot of us saying this, but do we take one part of the religion and leave another?
Or more accurately, do we emphasize on some of the Sunnah and leave others? I definitely was. The Prophet (peace be upon him) was in the service of his family, and none of us can claim we are more busy than him.
3. Family Outings
Another area I was able to improve was family outings. I previously left it to my wife to feed the kids and would only get involved if I thought the next words out of her mouth would be, “Hulk, smash kids and husband!” Same thing with events at the Masjid or classes with gender segregation – “leave ‘em to mom.”
These days, I look for opportunities to help out. If the kids are clinging too much to my wife, I'll make the effort to entice or convince them away from her so they'll stay with me. When my son is eating (my eldest daughter eats on her own now), I'll feed him and allow my wife to eat first.
About the only time I'll leave the kids with my wife is if I'm in a Masjid in which the presence of children elicits drama queen-like responses from the community. In mosques where kids are not only tolerated, but welcomed (even if they walk around during Salah), I'm happy to take my kids there.
This is the direction I'm heading in my own journey of fatherhood/ husbandhood. It's not a straightforward topic, but I thought I'd share some strategies I've used successfully to relieve the daily stresses my wife faces with the children.
I'm under the impression this is an issue for many married sisters, so if it is, please chime in and offer your own thoughts.
And any brothers who know better in this, please offer your strategies as well.


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