A healthy marriage is a satisfying marriage. Oftentimes as couples age their lives become dull. Fatima Barakatullah shows us how to re-kindle the fires of romance after 10 years and 5 kids. Wondering what happened to the romance since you became parents? Can't remember the last time you smelt a rose? Can't remember how to get dressed up? It needn't be that way! With a little effort, you can re-ignite the passion you once had for one another and, through it, renew the strength of your relationship. Embrace one another Physical contact is so important and even an embrace and a simple back rub or head massage can reduce stress levels and keep you connected to each other. Take time out to have a hug and renew yourselves. Have a routine If your kids are up till late, and your home is disorderly, then it's hardly surprising that you don't get a chance to bond with your spouse. There has to be time for you to be together as a couple, for you to be able to pay full attention to each other. So get your kids into a good meal and bedtime routine and stick to it. It'll change your life! Go on a date Have regular time alone together…uninterrupted! Even if that means asking your mum to keep the kids for a few hours. You could use that time to talk, remember how you met and what your feelings were for each other when you got married. Eat out together or go to a quiet spot by a river or for a stroll in the park. Only talk about positive things in that time that you have set aside for yourselves. Flirt with each other Leave a little love note in his lunch box or stick it on his rear-view mirror. Send him a text message with a message of love and gratitude for all he has done for you. You are never more attractive than when you are smiling and happy. Be a bit of a bimbo sometimes! What I mean by that is: joke and be light hearted around your husband and don't always bring up the heavy stuff when you're with him. Get your glad rags out You know! The make-up and jewellery you once wore but now don't seem to be able to find. Make an effort to look good and both you and your husband will benefit. Even if you can't do it every day, dress up once in a while and your husband is sure to notice the extra effort you've put in. Indulge in nice smelling bath scrubs that'll make your skin soft and smelling sensual. A mud mask once a week will make your face shine with radiance!
