Hussain Abu Al-Sibaah Saudi Gazette RIYADH – An American mother who had a baby out of wedlock with a Saudi student who then deserted her has launched a website to name and shame all Saudi men who leave their children behind in the United States. The founder of the website saudichildrenleftbehind.com came up with the idea to name and shame Saudi fathers. Deserted mothers can shame their ex-Saudi partners by sending their families a message about their sons' true actions. The goal is to force the father to provide for his son or daughter. Saudi Gazette gathered information about the website and discovered many Saudi students had left their young children behind in the United States. These students brought nothing but trouble to their families in the Kingdom. They traveled abroad to come back highly educated. Instead, they got themselves into trouble then left behind innocent sons or daughters often born out of wedlock. The stories on the website usually start when an American woman falls victim to a Saudi student who promises her the stars and she falls for it. But when she gets pregnant, he cowardly runs away. The website shows a large number of messages sent by deserted American mothers to the families of the fathers in the Kingdom. The messages say the husbands promised to provide for their children but they failed to do so. One of the messages said: “To Sultan's family I say you should be ashamed of your son. “I had a baby with your son in 2009 when he was studying in college. He promised me he would bear the living costs of his little baby, Joseph, but he lied.” Sultan's son, Joseph, is almost three years old and was named by his father, his mother said in her message. The mother said she is not shaming Sultan as a way to put pressure on him and force him to marry her. All she wants is the medical records of her son, which Sultan took with him. Another message said: “To Sulaiman's family: your son had a long-term relationship with me when he was in the United States. “I got pregnant by him and we had a son. “Sulaiman signed his birth certificate which proves his fatherhood.” The mother also said several Saudi students knew about the relationship she had with Sulaiman and they are ready to confirm it. She asked Sulaiman's family to do something about it and act swiftly. She ended her message by reminding the family that they should not accept injustice. A third message said “To Raji's family: Your son had a relationship with an American girl and she got pregnant and gave birth to twin girls. “Unfortunately, Raji fled the US when the government requested that he undergo a DNA test to prove his fatherhood to the twin girls. “Many Saudi students are aware of the relationship between Raji and the girl and they will testify to that. “The mother wants her twin daughters to be raised Muslim and receive an Islamic education because it is the best way to raise kids.” The mother asked Raji's family to take action and make things right. She said Allah does not accept injustice. She told the family that she was ready to supply them with any information they need to prove that Raji is the father of her twin girls. She ended her message by saying: “I know you are Muslim. All I want from you is to do what is right.” Isabella is one of the deserted women who posted her story on the website. She is 23 from a Christian family. She met her Saudi partner through a friend. She stayed with him in the same house for seven months, during which she got pregnant with his child. She said when he knew about it, he started shouting at her to have an abortion. He told her he was not ready to be a father and was frightened that his family would disown him if they knew he had an illicit relationship. Her family liked her partner because he seemed to be a respectable gentleman. Eventually, he fled the country after learning that she gave birth to twin daughters. The last words Isabella told the Saudi student was: “Fear Allah.” Deserted mothers did not only write messages and post them on the website; they also wrote poems shaming their partners. One of the poems was called “Deadbeat Dad” and goes like this: “You are no man, you are what we call a deadbeat dad. You won't take care of your children you had, You act like you have no past, that is really very sad. You move on from state to state, and from woman to woman, thinking you are something great. One day you will come to realize, that you cannot leave your past behind. The babies that you left me to care for on my own, know now that you are gone. They can make their own decisions on their thoughts about you, they can decide if they wants to meet you, or just be through. You missing out on all the fun, because you just had the urge to always run. You missing their smiles and the way they talked, you even missed seeing them begin to walk.”Dr. Muhammad Al-Issa, Saudi cultural attaché, said his section has not received any complaints from American mothers who got pregnant by Saudi students. He also said the section does not deal with such complaints. He added that he did not know if the embassy had received any such complaints.
